This is not an androgynous post. Nor is it meant to ruffle the feathers of macho men. The title is to drive the point that men and women have more similarities than differences. Too many point out each sex is separate from the other. We are not so different you and I; men and women. We have a need to be accepted, loved, and cherished. Our difference is in the way we express ourselves.
Men have three major complaints about women.
- Girls are too emotional.
Men find women intimidating because guys are trained not to show emotion. When a girl has no trouble crying in front of you men are not equipped with the fortitude it takes to just let her work through it and not try to fix it or make her stop crying. That's okay, I find a guy throwing a pig skin at his TV during a game and shouting at the players being a couch coach intimidating myself. I'm wondering what else your going to throw and where do I need to be to avoid it?
- Girls talk too much.
Listening to the latest greatest knife/gun/boxing instructional video for an hour is a bit much. Just like girls talking about the latest lipstick color might be as interesting as grass growing. Also, guys talk too much about themselves just like girls talk too much about themselves.
- Girls don't make sense.
If we don't make sense then it's probably because you're not trying to communicate to us in our language. Our language is not simple but neither is yours. Amazingly men can condense an hour long conversation in one "grunt" sound. That's amazing, but a woman doesn't have that ugh, ugh sound and must string communicative words before she feels she's been heard. If you are confused as to an action or words we say then tell her I'm sorry, I'm trying to understand you. I want to understand you but I don't know if I should take this conversation at face value or not. What's the underlying story here?
Men might have perfectly logical reasons why they do the things they do. So do women. Following the logic it's summed up to; women cry. Men sulk. Girls communicate through speech because they are articulate. Men give hand signals, eye signals and grunt, expressing themselves just as efficiently as women. Guys don't call women letting them know they are not interested. Girls say "no" but guys don't believe them.
You can reverse everything and find that guy rules and girl rules is like mixing baseball with football. Pay attention to the "rules" and "the game" isn't so hard.
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