Dating Themes

Themes I keep hearing from dating experts:

As a women, I find men fascinating enough to try and communicate with them on their level.  I'm finding so many things different about the genders, but there are common strings with men and women. 

The breakdown:

Be Yourself.  The authentic you is GOOD ENOUGH.  You are who you are.  Are you comfortable in your own skin?  If not why not?  If someone asks you, "Who are you going to please with that?"  Tell them, "ME!".
 
Be Present.  Why not enjoy the other person's company?  Why are you thinking about laundry when there is a human being in front of you that you can connect with.  If it's hard to concentrate on that person then do this little trick--match their breathing cycle.  That will bring you back.

Have A Life.  If all you think about is work or that special someone and you forget your friends, your hobbies, what makes you fullfilled then how are you going to bring happiness to your partner?  If you look for someone else to make you happy -- then best case scenario is you're only happy when your with that person.  Don't you want to make yourself happy when you want?  Find your happiness it won't try to find you. 

These seem to be key elements that experts repeat.  They all have to do with people being whole.  Whole as in not needed or wanting another person but being and bringing to all relationships the kind of person you would want to be friends with. 

On the flip side a lot of dating experts deal in insecurities.  That seems to be a universal theme.  Men and women have different insecurities too.  Guys seem have insecurities before they get to know women and vice versa for women.  Guys know that if they get us to laugh they'll probably be making breakfast for us in the morning.


Girls generally lose themselves and their minds after they've had sex or become emotionally attached to a guy.  They tend to be in a constant state of thinking they will lose the guy.

Things can be so much better if you follow the three themes of dating experts.  Be yourself.  Be present. Have a life.  Really, it's not rocket science or a new inter-dimensional realm.